Go Ahead and Ask… You May Change History

I wonder... what suggestions do we all hold to ourselves?

Here in the U.S. we have great opportunities to shed stigmas and break barriers that are not possible in some societies or countries. A perfect example comes from a little girl in the annals of history — long forgotten, but forever literally changed the face of history.

Grace Bedell

Abraham Lincoln - 1860 Election PhotoJust 11 years old, young Grace wrote to Abraham Lincoln just before his first election. Innocently, respectfully, and un-presumingly, that little girl told Lincoln that if he grew out his whiskers she could get more people to vote for him. Such honest words of a sweet appraisal of an adult she respected prompted Lincoln to complete the look engraved, stamped, and carved into countless memorials and depictions — a bearded Abe Lincoln.

Her words come alive when you read them. Put yourself in her shoes as you read this:
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Back to the Basics #7: Experience Trumps Education

Back to BasicsContinuing my series on forgetting the complicated things of life and reconnecting with what is important, we’re going to discuss the importance of experience. Right off, though, I want to make it clear that I’m not advocating slacking off in school or not going to college in exchange for a job right out of high school. An education is a tool. It especially opens doors that are not accessible to those with only experience. In over two years at my current place of work, I have only seen 2 or 3 jobs out of maybe 150 posted that did not require a 4-year degree and some experience in the field.

On with the topic, then.

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Back to the Basics #6: Getting to the Core Pulp

Back to BasicsI met a really neat guy at SOBCon in Chicago in May. I was sitting in the pub with Phil and Mike and Terry when others started sitting down around us (I guess I wasn’t smelling bad after a VERY long day… yet). Suddenly, someone who everyone else obviously knew came in and was pressured into pulling up a chair.

At the moment, I couldn’t care less if anyone else sat down; it was starting to get a tad crowded around our little coffee table. It didn’t take long for me to get over that annoyance and even join the conversation. It was a delight to talk to the mystery man, who is just as struck with the need to change blog themes as I am. His name is Troy Worman, and he lives in my sunny state of Florida.

Troy chimed in today on his awesome blog, Orbit Now! with his take on Getting Back to Basics. His idea got to the core of life to him and he gives us core orbit pulp: 9 orbit strategies, give or take.

How Do You Feel Today? 3 Steps to a Better Relationship

MisunderstandingSomething happens in relationships when you get close to people, doesn’t it? You have more power to hurt the people closest to you and more ability to be hurt by the people closest to you. What happens when you do that?

A stone wall would be a good metaphor for the response that usually follows an emotional disappointment or sting. Once that wall goes up, someone or both of you are apt to stop communicating your feelings. According to statistics, usually one person has no problem whatsoever with talking about feelings (good and bad) while the other retreats at the thought of talking about anything more personal than the weather that affected them that day. Why should knowing how someone feels make any difference to how couples get along on a day to day basis?

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