Liz Strauss: The Voice Behind the Blog

Liz Strauss in the fleshI am one of the privileged crowd who has had the pleasure and honor to sit down with Liz Strauss and hear what is on her mind. Most of you reading this already know of Liz or are also one of her SOBs. If you just found that sentence shocking, then you need to catch up to the rest of us to know what Liz is all about.

Once you start reading her blog as a routine, much as you listen to a talk radio program, you get used to her unique writing style that includes one sentence paragraphs, bulleted lists, and badge-like graphics to add spice to her articles. The success of Successful Blog has taken her writing from being an online publisher to blogging in the best sense of the term. When you tell people you are a blogger, that often elicits strange responses from people. Those people have not met or read Liz.

Something interesting happens when you meet her in the flesh: her typed words take on color, cadence, and almost a taste. Her writing style is not actually how she writes, per se, but how she thinks. From that moment on, Successful Blog reads differently. It is a personal conversation with you, not a form letter to the Internet. Even her hand motions from her early dance experience take form in her written word.

Liz is just as elegant in writing as she is with her hands.

Liz Strauss and Jesse PetersenAt SOBCon07, Liz chose me (for some reason that is beyond my understanding) to run her slide show for her presentation. That opportunity gave me some one-on-one “get to know Liz Strauss” time as she ran through what was going to transpire in her talk. I saw her hands move as she spoke out of the corner of my eye as I was trying to soak in everything she was saying while figuring out when to flip to the next page in her printed outline. She dances through her words, in sort of a contemporary style. Sometimes she has the fluidity of a ballet, but then another thought needs to come through, so her step adjusts with the new flow.

Her time up front was really a talk more than it was a presentation. From my vantage point behind Liz, while hiding behind a 15″ laptop screen as best I could, I saw people’s reactions to her spoken word. The room was captivated. She could have talked for 3 hours that day and not a soul would have said a thing against that.

That is what I picture every time she posts a new article.

I see hundreds, thousands, and millions (she is very secretive about her traffic, thus I am free to picture her readership in my mind’s eye) of people dropping everything they are doing and reading every word she writes until they feel compelled to participate in the conversation. It is no different from listening to her in person, yet it is an entirely different experience having done just that.

What do you see when Liz writes?

Are You a Coach?

“If you want to get somewhere in life, my thinking is that you should consult with those who can see down the road for you and guide you to the right fork in the road.” -Jesse Petersen

I am a coach because I can tell someone rather early on some pivital life information. I am an answer man, and I’m often approached by people with problems with a wide array of disciplines. I can tell someone what needs to be done and whether or not I think they can do it. Notice that last part, because this is where people often end up not liking me. I tend to rub people the wrong way because I’m very honest, although I don’t think I an unneccessarily unkind or blunt. Maybe a tad blunt, but not rude.

Think of Simon Cowell, if you have watched enough American Idol to at least respect his opinion. I don’t always agree with his delivery, but he is truly being helpful to people by telling them the truth. Sometimes the best advice (if it is correct) is to tell someone to look to do something else rather than struggling at something that they will not be able to do as they envision.

Here is a personal example so maybe you can relate. When I was growing up, I kept coming back to reading about the military, weapons, planes, and fighter jets, specifically. I played flight simulators on our computer, nearly exclusively, every night from the age of 7 to 14. I could put the difficulty on high or realistic with all of the safeties off and land by instruments, malfunctioning parts, and on aircraft carriers at night. My favorite TV shows to this day are military/tech-related.

One day around the 8th grade, my dad told me that soldiers need to have 20/20 vision or better to get into flight training to even get a chance to become a pilot. I’d been wearing glasses since kindergarten and was barely able to see past the end of my nose without corrective lenses. I was crushed. I immediately looked it up and Dad was right. As it turned out, I was not eligible to join any branch for other reasons, but at least I didn’t keep that dream alive clear through high school thinking that I knew what was going to happen with my life. That would have hurt a whole lot more.

Did he tell me the right way? I dunno, but it was helpful. This is where my wife says I am not an encourager. I will not help someone in something that I see as a lost cause or a waste of time. With that said, what remains is whether or not it is better for you to get the truth (as lovingly as possible) or to have a good time.

How do you influence people? Are you an encourager, advocate, or do you simply listen and be a sounding board?

What I Got Out of SOBCon07 and How it Changed Me

Jesse Petersen, up close and personalI have been, for a great many years, an introvert. I would say I was nearly off-the-charts-introverted when I was 16-18 years old. That does not mean I did not have friends, but that I chose them deliberately and with much consideration of thousands of attributes and scenarios. I was messy, but then again, that was how I saw people. I still do to a great extent to this day.

Last night, my shrink (I call him that, but he’s really a psychologist that is great with “normal” people) had some insight to some extraordinary changes we are seeing in me. Today, I peel back my mask and show you what’s underneath partly as a result of SOBCon07.

Ready?

I have what is called “a hatred of humankind.” Not my words, but his. People are messy. They hurt you, demand things, give you things, and then demand more because of it. After years on the playground, on team sports, and playing office politics, I was wounded. People sucked and I didn’t care much for any of them aside from my family and people I already knew. I wanted people to be like machines, like I saw and still see myself as. Weird, I know, but that is how I have operated for years. Until I met my wife, that is.

Five years ago, my life changed. I suddenly became more interested in how someone else felt than myself. I sacrificed my time, my money, my gas, and my energy for the well-being of another person. It was wonderful. Until I got hurt.

Now that I am happily married for almost 8 months now, I am feeling more secure with people in general because I am successfuly navigating a close relationship that takes hours of attention each week. It’s a lot of work, but it is decidedly worth it. I attended SOBCon07 all by myself without having met anyone else attending. The closest contact I had until then was phone calls with Liz Strauss and our many comments on each others’ blogs.

I walked into the social time Friday night and found an empty table to put my laptop bag at and wait for others to come to me. [Read more...]